Parenting often brings in some moments of dilemma. For example, when you find you son engaged in a heated discussion with a classmate, do you intervene, or do you let them sort it out? Remember that there are some life lessons which your children should learn through observing, experiencing or contemplating. Have a look at what these lessons are.
Taking care of one self
When you expect that your son will daily tie his shoes, it is perhaps the initial step in instilling in him the urge to take care of himself. In case he goes against that expectation, bruises or scrapes might be caused, but that might not be too much of a price if you do not have to wake him up during his college days, at 7 or 7:30 every morning.
Doing something to help
Managing a household indeed involves a plethora of work. If you assign certain chores to your kid, it will build in him a feeling of community. As a child gradually understands that he is a component of a larger whole, he moves ahead to become a good citizen with substantial amount of fellow feeling.
Freedom brings in responsibility
As your toddler begins to walk, a sense of freedom builds in him, and he might create mishaps for himself, such as getting hurt as his head bangs on the glass door. I understand that it might be an agonizing way to make the child realize the true essence of the proverb ‘look before you leap’, but in the long run, it helps a lot, especially during the college days in future, when the child has to take a lot of decisions on his own.
Coping with failure
Let me talk about the Christmas play in your child’s school. The teachers will choose only one child for the role of Jesus, and it may or may not be your child. If the child grows up with the idea that failures and setbacks are an integral part of life and are more often than not concealed opportunities, he will be able to walk a long way in life’s journey.
Learning the benefits of hard work
Many a time, you must have faced your crazy toddlers screaming out at the grocery store asking for his favorite candy. At that point of time, it is easier to appease the child rather than letting him learn something. But if you postpone instantaneous rewards, it will really have immense benefits. Maybe when he is grown up, working and gets the very first paycheck, he might opt for saving money rather than making a purchase on impulse.
Being concerned about others
We all love to be surrounded by people who are capable of comprehending the condition that others are in and sympathizing accordingly. So far as the society, community or family is concerned, empathy has a lot of power. But the crux is that you will find it hard to teach empathy to children. In matters of learning sympathy or empathy, your child will probably take cues from the children or adults he interacts with.