Parenthood is one of the most precious and cherished moments of life. There are a plethora of responsibilities that accompany parenthood along with prized moments, some inevitable hassles and above all, an all-time watchfulness to ensure that the child is healthy, happy, safe and protected. Given this, it is not bad to pamper your kids, as long as you pamper them in the appropriate manner.
Bringing up children to become well-mannered citizens capable of coping up with life’s challenges with composure, indeed calls for commitment and hard work and also involves adherence to principles and a behavioral code for the parents.
Pampering children with love
Yes, it is good to pamper your children. In the initial stages, the parents constitute the kids’ world, and then they assume the role of caregivers and benefactors, rendering a continual emotional support. So pamper the kids with love, so that they feel secure and wanted.
Give gifts to your children in order to pamper them. Ensure that they enjoy every moment as they grow up. However, keep a check on showering your finances on them. Make sure that they do not get into the habit of obtaining everything that they want easily.
When your kids are a bit grown up, continue being generous to them but also make sure that they realize the following:
- The amount of money that you can spend and the amount of things that the child needs has a limit
- Your child ought to learn the art of sharing whatever can be shared
If we rope in sensitivity, sensibility and intelligence in whatever we give our children, it helps them understand that everything in life has a value.
Leading by example is the easiest and the most effective way to develop the correct set of values in your kid. You should treat every person surrounding you with respect and love. When you are interacting with people, particularly in front of your child, exhibit your genuineness and sincerity.
A child learns to be transparent and honest in interactions when he or she sees you incorporating those values in your interactions with people. Hence, it is obvious that you should refrain from insulting or shouting during your interactions with people.
As a baby or a toddler and definitely when your child grows up, respect him. Give due attention to what he requires. Even if you find his requests weird, do not make the mistake of laughing at him. Instead try to understand the reason behind such a request. Take care of his likes and dislikes with sensitivity.
You might find that most of what the child asks for an impossible to fulfill. But remember, in such demands, a need for more security and the urge to be loved more remains concealed. Therefore, try to be practical and comprehend what the child really requires.
You should stay away from the following:
- Over pampering or over protecting your children.
- Comparing them to other kids who are perhaps better; instead identify the faults and encourage them to fare better.
- Discriminating between siblings, since it gives rise to a feeling of jealousy.
- Lying to children or avoiding their questions, because they might learn to do the same.
- Giving too much freedom or resorting to too much discipline.